Intimate relationships can be one of the most challenging paths we take as adults; few other experiences provoke our fears, insecurities and vulnerabilities quite so deeply and intensely. As a consequence, relationships can become strained and fraught with periodic difficulties that are either rare occurrences or frequent problems. While every marriage and committed relationship has its own unique issues, there are several which couples commonly bring to counselling, and these are:
- Frequent arguing or lack of communication
- Life and work balance
- Inability to effectively problem solve and resolve conflict
- Balancing dependence and independence
- Intimacy issues
- Infidelity, feelings of jealousy and insecurity within a relationship
- Reluctance to commit to the relationship.
Couples counselling can help you to:
- improve the way you communicate with one another, reducing the number and intensity of your arguments, enhancing your understanding of each others needs and reactions
- reflect on how your past operates in the present; it’s not just the two of you in your relationship it’s also your individual, unique childhood experiences and your family of origin too
- understand how your family values, religion, country of origin and philosophy of life affect your couple relationship
- revitalize lost intimacy and restore a sense of loving connection in your relationship, and
- help you to negotiate or re-negotiate your commitment to one another.
In couples counselling you can learn how to:
- listen to, and understand more about one another
- communicate in an easier, and more constructive way
- resolve conflicts without hurting each other
- negotiate difficult decisions
- be vulnerable so that you’re able to share, with confidence, your needs, fears, and dreams with one another.
Whether in crisis or nearing a potential crisis, couples generally come to couples counselling when they have already ‘tried’ all their current known options, and are unable to clearly articulate their individual needs or respond to the needs of their partner. Being facilitated and encouraged to talk openly and honestly about your relationship in a safe, neutral space can help set you on a path to more open, meaningful and calmer communications, and an increased feeling of connectedness with one another.